Time, Love, Care, and Attention are Important to a Strong Marriage. Success is often measured by money, titles and awards in life (we get a huge share of them), but success in marriage looks different. Marriage is about relationships (or more accurately being involved in them!) It’s about your emotional connection with each other.
A husband and his wife in work, business and financial accomplishment can never replicate the satisfaction his wife experiences when there is an emotional connection and support. A real success with marriage isn’t defined by what you have but rather how profoundly and daily you give and are prepared to give to one another. Every marriage takes time — time to talk, time to hear, time to explain, time to grow (together).
Couples can be rushing in the presence of life’s pressures — rushing alongside one another, concentrating on obligations instead of one another. But, when couples choose presence instead of pressure, love arises naturally without pressure—or because they allow time to spend together and love grows up organically through this kind of focus. This can include devoting time for serious conversation time, group activities, shared activities, time for shared life time and time without distractions.
Intentional time spent intentionally strengthens relationship bonding, deepening understanding, building intimacy (never rushing one too quickly), and facilitating intimacy. All those who know people must love and get there — both in words and actions. Love grows with patience, compassion, respect, and forgiveness. In marriage you start to find true love, which is really a day-to-day thing, a constant decision not made on a day to day basis.
One aspect of a big marriage is loving, but not a heavy one. But caring is a strong marriage cornerstone as well. Every union has its struggles—whether from negative forces in society, private stressors or an opposing point of view. Care means that one partner or partner can carry the other through hard times, support your dream that is good and help support others, and provide care when you require it.
Trust is given in care. In this way, all trust bonds can never be destroyed. Partners with whom every challenge can be met by coming to understand what’s important, how we can work together, become resilient and long lasting as friends. And attention — attention the kind that says, “You matter to me.” When individuals feel seen and heard, their distances dissolve, and they become one. Attention is about the little things: remembering dates, accepting emotion, being supportive, acknowledging wins, not judging. It’s the daily mindfulness of your partner being around you that makes you more alive and connected by maintaining intimacy and connection that prevents your emotional drift.
Money might buy a family but marriage is not for money—it is something that takes emotional investment. When a couple deliberately maintains their love with a combination of care, attention, attention and patience in a couple, time of love, care, attention, they lead a partnership that can withstand not only stressors, but also success and the inevitable of life that comes with it. That takes intention: to put each other first, to show empathy, to forgive and to embrace connection instead of conflict.
A happy pair knows that they will not be called successful because of what they own or even what people think of them, but rather due to the extent of their love, the quality of the backing that they show and the deliberate investment they show in each other day-in- and day-out. Creating a future together—breeding kids, financial stability, shared dreams—is essential, but it’s never more critical than the very being of the marriage that’s built and upheld. With the right emotional investment from a couple, everything else in life …
