There's a point in life when we understand that love and explanation and work will not help you see what you aren't ready to see. Realising this pain and agony when you are pure and hearts are at stake and motives is something that hurts. We want others to understand; to grow; to choose better –for themselves and on our behalf. But understanding cannot be forced.
The Struggle to Make Others See
Often we speak from experience. We warn, we lead, we try to protect the people we love. We ask them what to do again and again hoping that this time it will reach them. But when an emotional person is unprepared, even the truth may seem unseen. They no longer want to understand what the truth says for themselves-- it lies to have received the message.
The real harm this does is hurt most in close relationships. Observing someone you love repeat the same mistakes over and over again can make you feel impotent. Starting to get doubtful about ourselves: your patience, your worth, our job in their world. But their inability to see is no way of expressing your worth: It's just a matter where they are.
Lessons Through Experience
Instead of getting help at all and saying that you have become better than them, these words point in different directions for your own success in life. Sometimes, you have to have lost someone, you have to have failed, you have to have hurt before clarity arises. Certain lessons take root in the heart only after you have experience, not an explanation.
Irrespective of how kindly, or hard-headed, we can’t walk another person’s path for them. Learning to step back is a brave step. It means choosing peace over control and understanding over irritation. Loving someone without trying to change them.
The Meaning of Letting Go
Lifting the burden of life does not break with the dead end and letting go does not mean you stop caring; it means that you stop getting too upset by a broken self to find understanding with you and that you don’t want to be understood.
In time, we also realised that we also had to learn to understand when we were not ready. We turned our backs on advice and we ignored warnings, we pushed aside the dangers, and have, with each loss of one side, learned what life taught us the hard way. Suffering it softens our hearts and helps us forgive.
Choosing Peace
In the final analysis all we can do is be honest, be kind and be true to ourselves. In the end, when someone is ready, they will see. Until then, going for peace is the greatest kind of kindness we can offer to them and to ourselves.
Closing Reflection
You offered truth, patience, and your heart.
If they still choose blindness, let them.
Not every soul is meant to awaken beside you.
