Valentine’s Day is something of a time for joy, surprises and showing of love. Couples make plans for special moments to celebrate their bond. But sometimes emotions can take a dangerous turn when expectations are not met. The story of Mohit who came up with a surprise for his girlfriend and reacted with anger and sadness when she changed her plan can be seen as an example of how attachment can go wrong in some cases.
Mohit had planned to meet his girlfriend on Valentine’s Day. He planned it all carefully, buying an iPhone, chocolates and Bucky to surprise her. He looked forward to the moment, and his excitement was all-pervasive. He was then informed on the other side that his girlfriend wasn’t able to come. The news broke his heart. In an angry fit of disappointment, Mohit smashed the iPhone, threw away gifts and destroyed all his preparations. Emotion-based, he started crying. Ironically, his girlfriend later showed up to surprise him and found that everything was gone.
So many strong emotions in relationships can at times cause destructive behaviour. Love is transformative, however, and when that power develops into overdoing and dependence, or even expectation, it can have devastating consequences. Mohit’s response shows how disappointment can rapidly change into anger and sorrow. Frustration, not sympathy, and he lost his temper; he turned away from the moment he had planned.
Trust, patience and balance are basic to many relationships. Though it is not uncommon to feel hurt when plans no longer align, anger can hurt both the relationship and one’s own peace of mind. Mohit’s story reminds us that love should not equal losing control over our emotions. Gifts and surprises are worth remembering, but it is knowing and having resilience that really counts.
Valentine’s Day is meant to celebrate love, Mohit’s story displays that, with its emotional intensity, excess life experience can be very dangerous. Love is not meant to spell destruction, but joy. If expectations aren't met, patience and communication are the best solutions. We are reminded that relationships deserve balance and respect, and emotional maturity. Only then can love be a source of joy, not pain.
