On this day, we are all watching many strange and disturbing events that bring into question our morals and humanity. A recent viral story out of Delhi has shocked everyone and caused controversy. A woman in this instance got a cab, and then asked the driver an extraordinarily inappropriate question: “Will you have s**x?” The driver adamantly refused and for a moment the woman canceled the ride. The incident quickly spread online, leaving many agitated about where social behavior is headed.
The cab driver, who was doing his job, came up against an unexpected and disrespectful situation. She didn't put forth his professionalism, the woman got a very personal and offensive request. He was clear and dignified in his refusal, but the mere confrontation that he faced is the latest sign of just how easily professional limits are being disregarded. The cancellation of the ride subsequently only amplified the strangeness of the visit.
This incident leads me to a great question: how can ‘no’ be so hard to take today? Consent is non‑constraint; anyone has the responsibility to say no. Just as women should be given respect for the way they choose, men too have a right to refuse, to defend their dignity. We respect the boundaries, this is not optional, this is the basis for effective human interactions.
Such incidents that become viral reveal larger issues in the society. It is alarming that we erode the respect for professional roles. A cab driver exists to ensure safe transportation, not to entertain unwanted requests. If boundaries are violated, trust between people erodes. It hurts both its victims and the larger society. At the same time, the story speaks to a desire for humanity as the backbone of ordinary interactions. Treating others with dignity is fundamental to professional and personal life. We all deserve respect in one way or another, as a driver, worker or customer.
But Delhi's cab scandal is just one part of a greater whole -- a call to arms that underscores the necessity of being human, showing empathy and respect. It is completely wrong to cross boundaries and not accept consent. We as a society have to come to appreciate professional dignity and personal propriety. You respect that, you respect them both; and it has to be a default in each and every interaction. And only then will we ever be able to build a community built on preserving humanity where everyone feels safe and respected in everyday living.
